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List of things to be happy about

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So we know we should be grateful every day; right?  Yes, we should!   But some days are harder than others!   So here is my list is goto things to be happy about when things are…less than stellar!

  1. My Cat; Mr. Whiskers
  2. Comfy Shoes
  3. A soft bed
  4. Fuzzy Socks
  5. Cozy BunnyHugs (Saskatchewan word for hoodie)
  6. Chocolate ( always keep a secret stash Mum tip!)
  7. The way the rain sounds when it hits the roof
  8. OR the fact the Sun is in the sky. It’s always a good day when the suns out. It rains A LOT where we live!
  9. Cookies!!!!!  Mmmm cookies
  10. A warm dry house…see #8
  11. Music!  Listen to your favourite song
  12. DANCING
  13. A good movie…I’m sensing another post about movies and Netflix!
  14. Comfortable pants; as I get older comfy pants a huge happy dance moment.
  15. Nice smelling Soap
  16. A nice pen! I love writing with a really nice pen!
  17. Fancy paper; I’m a stationary geek!
  18. Cooking a big meal for my family
  19. An organised pantry ( yup it makes me happy)
  20. Having a nice smelling house; walking in the door and having the aroma of my own house hit me.  It makes me happy!
  21. A clean and tidy kitchen bench! (I’m not a neat freak but I do love coming into my kitchen and it’s tidy)
  22. If my girls cook; which by the way leaves a HUGE mess in the kitchen BUT still makes me happy!
  23. Cooking/baking with my girls.
  24. Cooking with my Husband
  25. Cooking for a Group!
  26. BBQing. I love cooking and love it, even more, when I cook outdoors!
  27. My smartphone; yes this sounds vain but it’s my connection to all things back home.
  28. A hot bath, with candles and music
  29. Slippers!

As I read through that list I saw a trend. I think I like to cook. This is just a quick list of things I can be things I can be grateful for!  On very difficult days I like to look at things that do challenge me and turn them into something to grateful for. Each day is a challenge; it’s up to you if that’s a good thing or a bad thing.

What’s on your Gratitude list? Drop me a comment I’d love to hear from you.

Later Peeps

Why is it so hard to get dressed?

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As women how much time do we spend deciding what to wear?   I used to spend hours agonizing about what to wear!  I would try on different outfits with different shoes, only to walk around for about 30 seconds to realize they hurt my feet.  The pants ride up, and the shirt just feels all wrong.  BUT we wear anyway as this is what we THINK society wants us to look like

  • wearing uncomfortable clothes
  • Bill Gates/ successful men dressing in “uniforms”
  •  we try to fit in.
  •  Into a mold that we, in fact, create ourselves
    we dress to suit what we think the solution demands

When we got to NZ I felt like I stood out like a sore thumb.  I could feel people looking at me and knowing that I wasn’t from here.  I struggled to fit into what I felt was NZ styles.  When I went to social outings I had NO idea how to dress so I dressed in my best Canadian outfit. But still, I felt like a stood out.  I went to my first meeting here I was so stressed out over what to wear I almost didn’t go, but my need for human interaction far outweighed by anxiety.  I was, of course, way overdressed and I think I could have worn a paper bag cause I asked some pretty crazy questions that no one has any idea what I wore but they alllllll remember what I said!!!!   But that’s a story for another day!

So how do we need to dress?  Well, let’s start with what’s comfortable!  I’m not saying that you should turn up to a meeting in your track pants and bunnyhug (the Saskatchewan word for a hoodie). But what I am saying is make sure you’re comfortable. Can you move properly?  Can sit down without having to THINK. Can you lift your arm above your shoulders, without A. exposing parts of your body and B. Almost ripping your blazer like the Hulk!   You never know when you need to quickly raise your arm to catch something.  I know this sounds ridiculous BUT truthfully you need to be able to move!   As women and mothers, we need to be able to move unrestricted, freely and comfortably. Does this mean walking around in our PJs?  NO, NO it does NOT. It just means dress sensibly and smart.

Our lives as mothers are so complex, we go from role to role to role…most of the time in the same set of clothes unless your superman and can change in a phone booth…I have changed my clothes in the car. Yup, sometimes we do what we need to do! So keep this in mind when purchasing and or revamping your wardrobe.

  • Comfortable
  • Flexibility
  • Function
  • Ability to match items with each other

All in all, make things simple for your self and this will make your life simple! When we don’t have to think about what we wear that will save us SO much time and maybe just maybe we won’t be late!!!  BAHAHAHAHA Who am I kidding, something else is going to come up and make us late.  Some sort of meltdown ( may or may not be a CHILDS meltdown) lost car keys….that MAY or MAY NOT BE IN MY HAND(don’t ask).

Take care peeps!

Caught between an Axe and a Chainsaw

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After living here in New Zealand for 4 years you would THINK that I would be used to being home sick.  NOPE Not even a tiny bit!   Our first year here was filled with so many exciting firsts it was hard to keep up!  Our new house, the girls new school, new foods, new treats, new cars NEW NEW NEW NEW.  But the one thing that I wasn’t prepared at all for was the new ache in my heart that would never go away.

We have experienced many firsts here in New Zealand;  it’s a culturally rich country.  I really enjoy learning about and discovering it’s rich history.  I love being here and experiencing all there is to offer.  I am a GEEK and we live IN the country that Lord of the Rings was FILMED. Eeeee. I can’t even believe it sometimes….I’ve been to the Shire insert crazy Happy Dance! AHHHHHMAYZING you seriously need to go if you come to New Zealand. The ocean is a 15 minute drive from our house as compared to the TWO DAY TREK Back home; we have the AMAZING Mount Taranaki IMGP8300IN my   back garden.  The scenery is breathtaking, lush and green all year-long (it rains a LOT) there are beautiful trees, flowers, birds, rivers and when you go tramping…aka hiking NOTHING can eat you!   BUT there is always going to be an ache in my heart for home. Now I  also have cause to believe that there will be an ache in my heart for New Zealand IF we were to move home.  Recently I have been calling this the caught between an Axe and a Chainsaw situation.

When ever there was a family event I was that member of the family you just knew was going to be there along with my own wee family, my Little Blonde girls and Hubby in tow.  We never missed an occasion to gather with my amazing Fam Jam!  Weddings, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Baby showers, BBQ’s, Family Reunions, Funerals, you name it I was there. Lending a hand doing anything I could to help, oh and lets not forget eating everything I could.  So being here brought yet another new thing to me, I missed these things.  The first major event I missed was my Grandparents anniversary, their 50th.  I was heartbroken.  Yes I was able to be carried around on a laptop via Skype; SO in a sense I was there; teee heee hee I freaked out some of the oldies not up on technology.  It was funny, but it hurt not being able to physically be there.  This was just beginning of the things I would miss out on.  BUT it’s all part of being over seas.  Being away from your home, this was my choice and ironically I would choose to do it again.

Now I am an only child so when the decision to move here was made I have to say that I broke my poor Fathers heart!  He didn’t speak to me for a few weeks, now for a girl who called  home almost every day this was HUGE. I would call home and talk to my Momma and ask if was Dad was there…”Yup” She would say….Does he wanna talk “Nope”  gahhhhh I felt AWFUL!  I had been warning my parents this was coming for years but I don’t think that they realised I would actually do it.  BUT surprise I did.  They raised me to follow my heart and go for what I wanted….I don’t think they were fully prepared for what was going to happen; neither was I truthfully!

Now on the only child note I was so scared that something would eventually happen to my parents so I made a call to my amazing cousin to ask her to be my goto girl if something happened.  NOW I was thinking that in like 20 years I would have to use this OR maybe 10-15at the earliest. BUT NOPE 2 years after moving here my Mom suddenly took ill and was gone in a matter of days.  I had to make that call, and my girl was packed and IN the car with in Minutes for me!  This was devastation like I have never experienced in my life.  This SUCKED!  I was on the other side of the world and had to get home NOW!  And NOW means the quickest I could get home was 29 hours… I made it back in time to say Goodbye but my lord that was a hard few weeks.  Plane rides, jettlag funerals all in two weeks, that felt more like 48 hours; and I found a strength I had NO idea I had….I will blog more about this soon.

Since then so much has changed back home, Aunties having strokes, grandparents going into homes.  My Dad had a quadruple bypass shortly after Mom died….SHIT GOT REAL! ALL of which I had to MISS! Now who truly wants to be around for things like that anyway…ME;  I do. It’s weird I know but I LIKE to be there for stuff like that, BUT I had to be here.  Not offer any real support, cook the food, pour the tea, pace the halls, pack the boxes…I wasn’t able to help the people in my life who really needed me.  Was I a text on a screen YES at any hour of the day…BUT for me It was and IS truly AWFUL! See what I mean Axe and a Chainsaw.

Newest and latest development…my Dad; Yup Mr Quadruple bypass has Cancer…as he puts it ASS Cancer.  This will give him material for his toilet humor for YEARS!! Anyway…Stage 3 Colon cancer….god that’s hard to even type. He’s started treatments…and I am here. On the other side of the world. YES I am a text message/phone call away THANK GAWD for technology that’s all I have to say!  Yes; get on a plane and go home…I am; but it’s not that simple.  He’s in for a long road of treatment, so I can’t just go home for all of  it; as much as I want to I simply can’t.  SO I am going home for the surgery, and staying to help after with the recovery…see axe and a chainsaw.  I wanted to be home for it all…BUT it’s about 4-5 months of treatments. I have Those young Blonde girls who need me here….Adulting SUCKS!  {Please don’t judge my parenting… I am a wonderful mom and have and will continue to do everything I can for my girls}

This week has been particularly difficult, I don’t know if it’s Mother’s Day looming, the full moon, OR the rain…Have I mentioned that it rains a lot.  BUT I was so ready to just pack everything into suitcases and move home. Being here SUCKS sometimes it really truly SUCKS.  BUT I have to sit back AND…BREATH….in AND out….IN and OUT…and really LOOK at what’s happening.  Do I love New Zealand? Yes!!!! Did I want to move back, before I knew about Dad’s cancer?  NO!  As a matter of fact we discussed that very topic not long before we found out and said “we will probably never move home” BUT add some Cancer VOILA lets PACK OUR SHIT and get the F on a plane….NO NO AND NO!  I can’t do that.  Sometimes I can be a sane person…NOT often that’s where my Hubby comes in he is the calm rational one.

I am HOME ….Here?YUP it’s true…New Zealand is the new HOME!  I even referred to here as HOME in a text to my Dad the other day and freaked my self out!!! I litterally FOUND ME in New Zealand; I remember getting off the plane, and feeling a HUGE surge of energy rush through me into the ground when we landed.  I knew I was home! I knew I had come to where my soul needed to be.  I remember telling my Mom that on the phone shortly after arriving she was heartbroken all over again.  I moved to New Zealand to become my TRUE self.  I am still on a journey and sometimes everyday I turn about 70 new corners, but with each new twist and turn I uncover a new and wonderful piece of myself.  I LOVE where I live, I miss where I grew my roots, but I now have a new HOME and it’s New Zealand…sigh….Bitter Sweetness in it’s truest from…Adulting is hard!

Sooooo now we know the new saying Caught between an Axe and a Chainsaw; ’cause rock and a hard place just doesn’t cut it!

Love ya Peeps

Crystal 

20 things to start right now!

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In My Journey to a better to be more myself this is my list of things I want to add to my life daily!

  1. Drink a lot of water and green/white tea; the best tea I have ever had is from my wonderful friend Sarah, and her Tea House- A Himalayan Experience; get your AMAZING TEA HERE!
  2. Eat small meals during the day
  3. Eat more Fruit, veggies
  4. Go for a walk, bike, swim, jog
  5. Where comfortable shoes
  6. Go to bed earlier
  7. Stop thinking Negetive thoughts about your self and others
  8. Don’t dwell on the past, just let it go
  9. Enjoy the little things in life…like crisp clean sheets!
  10. Don’t compare your self to others; you only see what’s on the outside you have no idea what thier life is really like
  11. Practice Meditation
  12. Eat healthy; BUT for pity sake EAT THE CAKE
  13. Stretch daily to increase flexiblity
  14. Avoid putting things off…I am sooo bad at this
  15. Listen to peaceful music
  16. DANCE
  17. SING LOUDLY
  18. Wear cloths that make you HAPPY!
  19. Throw away things that you don’t need
  20. Remember that you are enough
  21. Go OUTSIDE MORE!

If I set goals of doing this list daily I think I will be in a pretty epic place next year.  If you find yourself on a similar journey don’t forget the most important goal is to be kind to yourself every day.  This is a list of things that will really help me become more aligned with who I want to be. It will put me on a path the will make me be more ME…self care, self love and by doing this all the rest of life will fall into place.  You know the saying if Momma aint happy aint nobody happy.  Well what are you waiting for, let’s make Momma happy!

 

Thanks for reading peeps!  Take care, be well, Be Happy, Be Kind, and Be YOU!

 

Crystal

Winter has arrived; bring on the Binge watching!!

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Binge Worthy

Now don’t get me wrong the following list makes me look like an absolute couch potato! But let’s keep in mind that it rains. A LOT in New Zealand! Soooo we gather around the TV a few nights week and watch! Also in the early weekend mornings before the Zombie Teenager/tweens awaken from their slumbers we watch tv until it’s time for them to wake then I proceed to bang the pots and pans almost as loudly as my mom did when I was a zombie teenager.

Netflix

  • The Blacklist (Husband approved)
  • The Ranch (Husband approved)
  • The Crown
  • Reign
  • Upstairs Downstairs
  • The Last Kingdom (Husband Approved)
  • MadMen
  • The Designated Survivor (Husband Approved)
  • Vikings ( Husband Approved)
  • Jane the Virgin
  • Gilmore Girls ( love watching this with my girls)
  • Gilmore Girls Return ( love watching this with my girls)
  • Heartland ( love watching this with my girls)
  • Riverdale
  • Rick and Morty (Husband loves)
  • Orange is the new black

* Husband Approved means we watch together. Some shows he makes a running commentary and it makes me NUTS….so I prefer to watch alone! Grey Anatomy is one of those, I can’t watch that with him.  

Non-Netflix

  • Game of Thrones
  • Outlander (not available on New Zealand Netflix)
  • The Big Bang Theory
  • Harry Potter ( which takes ***** To watch all movies back to back)
  • The Hunger Games
  • The Walking Dead ( hubby watches got to real for me; Ya I know it’s zombies NOT real BUT I couldn’t do it!)

We love anything Marvel or superhero related

Star Wars? YES!!!

Star Trek??? Heck Yes!!!

We are family that loves a good “Geek Movie”

As a family, we are on the go constantly, to and from work or school, off to a sporting event or birthday party, or just a child-related event of shape or form.  So when we get an afternoon together chances are good we are glued to the tube getting our fix.   We also do love to play a good board game; so keep an eye open for our families top picks for games to play.

WHERE OH WHERE DOES SHE GO!??!

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Hello long time no Bloggy!!! 

 

Well my laptop decided to die…Sooooo I tried to fix it with no getting anywhere….THEN I took over Hubby’s laptop and well he then FIXED mine! I guess I should have do that sooner!!! I just wanted to pop in and say I am still here I will be doing a BIG yup BIG blog next as a catch YOU up!  But today is house cleaning day…sorry I hate it more than you do!! Blog soon! 

 

Balance means learning to say No :-(

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We all want “IT” we all seek “IT” we all wish we had “IT”. What is “IT”?  Balance of course… BUT the truth is I don’t think there really is a “balance” how do you balance so much stuff on one plate. I used to say that I was amazed that my little Tea Saucer could hold a Turkey Platter full of “stuff” well the truth is. It didn’t;  well it did to a certain point but something had to suffer. We strive to have it all, the career, the kids, be the amazing wife, the happy home, the clean home, the home-made cookies. But the fact is we can’t have it all we sure can try; but I don’t think it can happen. We always in the end feeling like some where down the line we have let some one down, forgot something OR we just live on pure caffeine so we can do it all. We stress ourselves out so much about the balance…What is the balance? What is the “perfect life”? Is it the life where we all paste on smiles and pretend like it’s ok?

Or is the one where the Mom has on the apron and makes sure every one is taken care of; everything is perfect and couldn’t be better!?

All I am saying is that no matter what your role is we are our own worst enemy! It’s true! We say YES I can bake 24 cupcakes for the school baking…you need them when? Tomorrow!!!!???!! 😦 NO Problem! 🙂 We say, YES I can volunteer on my ONLY day off in the last 3 weeks. Ya the one where I had hoped to do something for myself like I dunno take a long bath with NO ONE KNOCKING AT THE DOOR! Or Poking their fingers underneath, like you are the last person on the planet and they NEED to see you RIGHT now for fear that you are going to get drained out their life for ever with the bath water and they will NEVER EVER SEE YOU AGAIN! BUT Yes I would love to give up my free day! As Mothers and wives and women we do these thing; we do them for so many reasons.

  1. We love our children more than life itself; if you ever doubt this think of how you felt the last time they came home from school having a bad day. Your heart broke for them you were shattered and you would gladly go to school and shatter who ever has hurt your child. SEE LOVE! Do we want strangle them ourselves…sometimes daily! BUT We love ’em!
  2. We want our children to have the everything! We want them to look back at growing up and say WOW life was good back then…can I go back and be a kid again.
  3. Our job is to teach them how to do the right thing to teach them to be selfless, even when we want to be selfish, to give freely to others, to help others in the their time of need even it that means staying up until midnight baking cupcakes. We are making positive impressions on our kids.

This is not meant to add pressure onto the already over pressured Moms! But more of a lets step back and look; would someone else bake the cupcakes, most likely so do we HAVE To say yes every time NO we don’t, ya look there is that word NO…we find it almost impossible to utter it as Women because WE ARE SUPER WOMEN AND WE CAN DO IT ALL!!! Yes we are; and yes we can. We do it all for everyone else, and sometimes forget about our selves. Which is where the balance thing falls to pieces! We give, give, give, yes, yes, yes, ourselves into an absolute shattered mess some days! We have to learn that word NO we can say it to our children with ease…well I can! We can say it the annoying telephone person trying to tell you your computer is about to crash! BUT when someone asks us to help them out, volunteer and so on we say YES I can do that! Even though we are thinking this…. I don’t know how because I have to pick up the kids, take them to the sport activity, pick up the dry cleaning, feed the kids cause they are FAMISHED and will soon DIE if they don’t eat NOW, then drop off the cat and pick up the dry cleaning….or was it pick up the cat and drop off the dry cleaning. Take the kids home say HI to husband. BUT yes once I have done all that I can swing by and do that thing. Then I will rush home put the kids to bed. After all the rushing you oooooze into the house completely shattered, pour your self a NICE glass/bottle of wine go to bed and do it all over again the next day. Weekends are no longer for resting! These are filled with activities, sports, dance competitions, tournaments, busy busy busy, DIY home projects or just home projects that will prevent the home from falling apart!

THE point is we are all BUSY it’s crazy;  the pressure that is put on us. Some of it is from our selves some from society but the pressure is there. I felt it back home, but I  feel it here.  Not nearly as much as I did back in Canada but I am certain that is because I am home and I am able to do all the things that I want with the kids.  I can be the Yes person at the school I can be the last-minute cupcake mom. BUT again there has to be a balance. I lost sight of this balance for quite some time, but now my peeps it’s time for me to take it back.  So if you are a member of my community you will hear the word NO come from my mouth, please don’t faint. I am not doing it to offend you, I am on a mission to be ME.  A healthy balanced me that I was before children; which I refer to as B.C 🙂

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to BREATH and it’s ok to say NO!!!