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Why is it so hard to get dressed?


As women how much time do we spend deciding what to wear?   I used to spend hours agonizing about what to wear!  I would try on different outfits with different shoes, only to walk around for about 30 seconds to realize they hurt my feet.  The pants ride up, and the shirt just feels all wrong.  BUT we wear anyway as this is what we THINK society wants us to look like

  • wearing uncomfortable clothes
  • Bill Gates/ successful men dressing in “uniforms”
  •  we try to fit in.
  •  Into a mold that we, in fact, create ourselves
    we dress to suit what we think the solution demands

When we got to NZ I felt like I stood out like a sore thumb.  I could feel people looking at me and knowing that I wasn’t from here.  I struggled to fit into what I felt was NZ styles.  When I went to social outings I had NO idea how to dress so I dressed in my best Canadian outfit. But still, I felt like a stood out.  I went to my first meeting here I was so stressed out over what to wear I almost didn’t go, but my need for human interaction far outweighed by anxiety.  I was, of course, way overdressed and I think I could have worn a paper bag cause I asked some pretty crazy questions that no one has any idea what I wore but they alllllll remember what I said!!!!   But that’s a story for another day!

So how do we need to dress?  Well, let’s start with what’s comfortable!  I’m not saying that you should turn up to a meeting in your track pants and bunnyhug (the Saskatchewan word for a hoodie). But what I am saying is make sure you’re comfortable. Can you move properly?  Can sit down without having to THINK. Can you lift your arm above your shoulders, without A. exposing parts of your body and B. Almost ripping your blazer like the Hulk!   You never know when you need to quickly raise your arm to catch something.  I know this sounds ridiculous BUT truthfully you need to be able to move!   As women and mothers, we need to be able to move unrestricted, freely and comfortably. Does this mean walking around in our PJs?  NO, NO it does NOT. It just means dress sensibly and smart.

Our lives as mothers are so complex, we go from role to role to role…most of the time in the same set of clothes unless your superman and can change in a phone booth…I have changed my clothes in the car. Yup, sometimes we do what we need to do! So keep this in mind when purchasing and or revamping your wardrobe.

  • Comfortable
  • Flexibility
  • Function
  • Ability to match items with each other

All in all, make things simple for your self and this will make your life simple! When we don’t have to think about what we wear that will save us SO much time and maybe just maybe we won’t be late!!!  BAHAHAHAHA Who am I kidding, something else is going to come up and make us late.  Some sort of meltdown ( may or may not be a CHILDS meltdown) lost car keys….that MAY or MAY NOT BE IN MY HAND(don’t ask).

Take care peeps!

On your mark; get set; get dressed; self-doubt…and GO!


When we first arrived I could tell that people could tell we were “different” mainly because it was mid summer here and we were about as white a skim milk. However now that I have been here for a while it had NOTHING to do with the fact that I was glow in the dark white but more to do  with what we wear. When I get up and get dressed I put clothes on and ya that’s it; when Kiwi women get up they get dressed. SO  I don’t know if this makes sense or if I am just sounding like a rambling loon…which I don’t think I am that far from; but what I mean is that they are coordinated accessorizes and well put together; for the most part there is still some people who you have a look at and think did you get dressed in the dark WHICH I think I now belong in that category.  Back home did I care what I looked like?  No…well to a certain degree but I was not a trend watcher and I certainly was not a Trend setter!  BUT I did like to wear nice clothes.  Here the styles are quite different, everything is layered.  Shorts with leggings under, Tunics with leggings, Dresses with Merano’s ( long-sleeved wool shirts) under them.  They just look well put together, even when they say they look like a Wreck I think they look wonderful! I am stuck on my jeans and layered T’s…Do I want to change my look Yes and No, I like the way they dress but I have a hard time trying to find ways to put together something that works on me.  I think I will just try to adapt my Canadian style slowly into a kiwi style.  I have to say one thing that I love it that 90% of the women wear their hair in a top not or a  messy bun! LOVE IT Hair easy! Which is good cause since I have moved here my hair has taken on a life of its own !

This is what I have as an image of my hair since moving here…OH I MISS Friends!!! Thanks Monica!

  Basically all it will do is go in a pony so this makes my “hair life” MUCH better! And makeup! HOLY CRAP ON A CRACKER is it expensive…I have developed on allergy to my current mascara, well that is about all the make up I wear anyway some tinted moisturizer and some Mascara…BUT O EM GEE Is it expensive.  I am talking 25.00 for the CHEAP stuff maybe I am shopping in the wrong place but wowsers! SO I am really going natural since my itchy watery eyes have taken over!

 I have of course gone shopping many , many, many times and looked at the cloths tried to picture myself in the same outfits as these ladies and I just can’t.  I am not a fitter inner but I am not one who likes to stand out.  SO this is turning into an issue for me when I get dressed. One day I will transform into the kiwi Canadian in time I’m sure of it but until then it will be everyday On your mark, get dressed, self-doubt and go!

Oh the inner ramblings of my brain…sometimes I am shocked what comes out!